You catch yourself hearing a friend tell a really funny story and you wish you could make people laugh like that.
You see someone on the train dressed in the most effortlessly stylish way and you look at your own outfit with sudden disgust.
You hear a colleague explaining a complex concept you don’t understand that well and feel like you’re stupid.
It’s okay, you can admit it. Sometimes seeing someone else do something well can bring out the little anxieties and self consciousness we have hidden away.
We belittle our own wonderful uniqueness through the fear that someone else is funnier, smarter, better than we are.
The thing is, those people might well be ‘better’ than us in some fields. But to compare ourselves to them on just those grounds is to ignore all those things that make us individual.
TO DO LIST
- Make a list of all the things you are proud of.
- Make a list of all the positive qualities you have.
- Make a list of what you like or admire in a companion.
I guarantee that these first 2 lists will be full of things that some of those people you caught yourself comparing yourself to earlier do not have on their lists. And I guarantee that the final list will contain qualities that you yourself possess and portray to others!
The problem with this anxious trait of comparing ourselves to others is that it completely ignores the fact that everyone is so different!
It’s good to be a little influenced by those around us. If we surround ourselves with intelligent, funny, friendly people we subconsciously better ourselves just be being around them (as opposed to spending time with ignorant, whiney, mean people – although why you would do this I don’t know). But the key here is subconsciously. We do not need to consciously be aware of how great they are.
Because if we constantly are comparing ourselves to them, we won’t be able to show how great we are.