Love is loving yourself, first.
Love is loving the other, second.
Love is loving you two together, third.
Each side wants to be the longest.
Each will pull and elongate in the hope
that they will win the hypotenuse,
assert the greatest power.
Love should be an equilateral triangle.
You must not push too hard,
nor must you neglect your own course.
The other must pursue their path at a pace
natural to themselves.
Together you must support one another,
find a way to meet in the middle.
and both can draw the third side
when the time is right.
It can be easy to lose yourself a little when you’re in a relationship, or to expect your partner to lose themselves for you.
We’re independent creatures, so as much as we love them, we can’t help but feel a little scared when we realise how happy they make us. And we’re jealous creatures, so despite wanting them to be happy, we can’t help but feel uncertain when we see them happy without us.
It’s a close balancing act, but you can only really start building a healthy relationship when you accept those two paths that you and your partner are forging alone, find a way for them to co-exist, and then start to connect them.